You have your go-to water based moisturizer. You know which shampoos and conditioners work best for your hair. You have your routine set and you can do it in your sleep. But are you doing everything with regards to your natural hair the right way? How do you do natural hair the right way?
You may feel deep in your soul that your hair twin has the same exact texture and length that you do, but when you try her amazing styles, you look like a sad imitation. Are you doing something wrong?
How about the fact that do have the same regimen that your years-long hair crush does and your hair still looks nothing like hers. You have every cream, moisturizer, brush and comb that she has, but your hair just won’t behave. What is going on?
Too many naturals do this with women whose hair is at least somewhat similar to theirs. What kind of disappointment will you have if you try your best to look like someone who has hair that is completely different that yours?
There are countless ways you could be sabotaging yourself, but the main way of do this is to forget that your hair is your own, that it’s unique. Don’t let your self esteem destroy your natural hair journey.
There is no right or wrong way to do natural hair. You just need to own it. Find products, a style and a regimen that works for you and go with that. If anyone tells you that your lush, moist hair is bad or that you’re doing something wrong because you’re not doing things they same way that she is, I think you can safely ignore her.
Sure, if your hair is unhealthy or damaged, do your best to regain the health of your hair. But that goes for everyone, not just women with natural hair. So do your best, feel good, and rock what you love!