Stereotyping is stupid, but unfortunately people do it anyway. When you go natural some people will make assumptions about you just by looking at your hair. We’ve seen this in action at the 2015 Oscars, when a certain someone said Zendaya’s faux locs looked like they smelled of weed and patchouli oil. Since she was rocking dreads she just has to be a weed smoker right? SMH.

Since I went natural and started rocking my fro, I have observed some interesting changes in my interactions with people and their perception of me. Below is a list of just a few:

When I go to a performance poetry event, all of a sudden I’m a poet who should perform at tonight’s open mic.
Reality – I’m not a poet, but I enjoy supporting the arts, and I believe performance poetry is a powerful medium to express one’s self.

I smoke weed and use rock deodorant.
Reality – I don’t partake in either, but I’m not judging what you do.

I automatically want to be a part of a very deep discussion about the state of hip hop, or politics, or the cause of problems in society today.
Reality – Although I do like a good, thought-provoking discussion, right now I just want a latte.

I’m a free spirit who is not confined to society’s rules.
Reality – That’s not for me, and whatever kind of sexual prowess I might have is going to remain a curiosity for you.

I believe people who wear weave are victims of self-hate.
Reality – Nope. The weave vs. natural hair war is idiotic to me. The way you want to wear your hair is a personal choice. And, I could argue that wearing a weave is a protective style for natural hair. So everyone is a part of a big happy extended family.

I am a Queen and prefer to be addressed as such.
Reality – You are absolutely correct. ; )

What has been your experience?

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